Good afternoon.  I know once you have read this note, you will know already who you are so I need not directly mention your name.

I just wish to correct one of your posts since you are directly pointing out at me.  Please make sure that what you are accusing me is true before you lambast me with anything.  Kindly check also before you point fingers at me the dates as to when the photos were posted, the descriptions of the photos, and more importantly the Facebook account where these photos come from.  I am only handling my personal accounts and the official accounts of the LGU which are “Sta Maria” and “Local Government Unit of Sta. Maria”.  Any other posts or pictures outside of those accounts, are from poseurs only and not authorized by the present administration.  Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but once your post attempts to state an alleged fact, please make sure your fact is true.

In addition, kindly make sure also to distinguish between the present and the previous Mayor when you use the term Mayor in your posts.  I do not think it is fair to liken the present Local Chief Executive to the previous one, even if they come from the same family, for obvious reasons which you and the rest of the people of Sta. Maria can see from the many projects we have undertaken since July 2010.  Facebook is an arena where you can post anything you want provided you do not cross the border of respect for the rights of others or attempt to dissuade people into believing assumptions and mere conjectures.

The Administration of Mayor Mila M. Cabañero is very well aware that we can never please everybody and neither do we have plans of attempting to please all of you.  Nonetheless, we will continue to do what we are mandated to do under the laws and what we believe are the right things to do for the people of this Municipality.

We thank the many people who have appreciated our efforts, these are icings to our cake.  We likewise thank our critics, for you are the cherries on top of the icings to our cake.  The appreciation and the criticisms we receive from all of you will continue to inspire us to better serve the best interests of each and every Sta. Marian.

Daghan kaayong salamat.


Atty. Chona Leah “Tating” M. Cabañero, CESE

Municipal Administrator, LGU Sta. Maria


Republic of the Philippines

Congress of the Philippines


Pasay City

Fifteenth Congress

First Regular Session







Resolved by the Senate, To adopt, as it hereby adopts, the following:


I. When the Senate receives articles of impeachment pursuant to Article XI, Sections 2 and 3 of the Constitution, the President of the Senate shall inform the House of Representatives that the Senate shall take proper order on the subject of impeachment and shall be ready to receive the prosecutor on such time and date as the Senate may specify.

II. When the President of the Philippines is on trial, the Chief Justice of the Supreme Court shall preside but shall not vote. Notice shall be given to him by the President of the Senate of the time and place fixed for the consideration of the articles of impeachment, with a request to attend. The Chief Justice shall be administered the oath or affirmation, prescribed under these Rules, by the President of the Senate and shall preside over the Senate during the consideration of said articles and upon the trial of the person impeached.

The President of the Senate shall preside in all other cases of impeachment and, for that purpose, placed under the prescribed oath or affirmation by any person authorized by law to administer an oath.

III. Before proceeding to the consideration of the articles of impeachment, the Presiding Officer shall administer the prescribed oath or affirmation to the Members of the Senate then present and to the other Members of the Senate as they shall appear, whose duty it shall be to take the same.

Upon presentation of the articles to the Senate, the Senate shall specify the date and time for the consideration of such articles. Unless the Senate provides otherwise, it shall continue in session from day to day (except Saturdays, Sundays, and nonworking holidays) until final judgment shall be rendered, and so much longer as may, in its judgment, be necessary.

Senators shall observe political neutrality during the course of the impeachment trial. “Political neutrality” shall be defined as exercise of public official’s duty without unfair discrimination and regardless of party affiliation or preference.

IV. The Presiding Officer shall have the power to make and issue, by himself or by the Secretary of the Senate, all orders, mandates, and writs authorized by these Rules or by the Senate, and to make and enforce such other regulations and orders in the premises as the Senate may authorize or provide.

V. The Senate shall have power to compel the attendance of witnesses, to enforce obedience to its orders, mandates, writs, and judgments, to preserve order, and to punish in a summary way contempts of, and disobedience to, its authority, orders, mandates, writs, or judgments, and to make all lawful orders, rules, and regulations which it may deem essential or conducive to the ends of justice. And the Sergeant-at-Arms of the Senate, under the direction of the President of the Senate, may employ such aid and assistance as may be necessary to enforce, execute, and carry into effect the lawful orders, mandates, and writs of the Senate.

VI. The President of the Senate or the Chief Justice when presiding on the trial may rule on all questions of evidence including, but not limited to, questions of materiality, relevancy, competency or admissibility of evidence and incidental questions, which ruling shall stand as the judgment of the Senate, unless a Member of the Senate shall ask that a formal vote be taken thereon, in which case it shall be submitted to the Senate for decision after one contrary view is expressed; or the Presiding Officer may at his/her option, in the first instance, submit any such question to a vote of the Members of the Senate. The motion for a vote and the contrary opinion shall not take more than two (2) minutes each, with a one minute rebuttal allowed for the proponent of the motion. The provisions of the Rules of the Senate and the revised Rules of Court shall apply suppletorily whenever applicable.

VII. Upon the presentation of articles of impeachment and the organization of the Senate as hereinbefore provided, a writ of summons shall be issued to the person impeached, reciting or incorporating said articles, and notifying him/her to appear before the Senate upon a day and at a place to be fixed by the Senate and named in such writ, and to file his/her Answer to said articles of impeachment within a non-extendible period of ten (10) days from receipt thereof; to which the prosecutors may Reply within a non-extendible period of five (5) days therefrom; and to stand to and abide by the orders and judgments of the Senate.

Such writ shall be served by such officer or person named in the order thereof, not later than three (3) days prior to the day fixed for such appearance of the person impeached, either by the delivery of an attested copy thereof to the person impeached, or if personal service cannot be done, service of the writ may be made by leaving a copy with a person of sufficient age and discretion at his/her last known address or at his/her office or place of business; and if the service of such writ shall fail the proceedings shall not thereby abate, but further service may be made in such manner as the Senate shall direct. If the person impeached, after service, shall fail to appear, either in person or by counsel, on the day so fixed or, appearing, shall fail to file his answer to such articles of impeachment, the trial shall proceed nevertheless as upon a plea of not guilty. If a plea of guilty shall be entered, judgment may be entered thereon without further proceedings.

VIII. At the date and time designated by the Senate for the return of the summons against the person impeached, the Secretary of the Senate shall administer the following oath or affirmation to the returning officer: “I, __________________, do solemnly swear (or affirm) that the return made by me upon the process issued on the _______ day of ______________, by the Senate of the Philippines, against ________ __________ was truly made, and that I have performed such service as therein described: (So help me God).” Which oath or affirmation shall be entered at large on the records.

IX. The person impeached shall then be called to appear and answer the articles of impeachment against him/her. If he/she appears, or any person for him/her, the appearance shall be recorded, stating particularly if by himself/herself, or by agent or counsel, naming the person appearing and the capacity in which he/she appears. If he/she does not appear, either personally or by agent or counsel, the same shall be recorded.

X. At 2 o’clock in the afternoon, or at such other hour as the Senate may order, of the day appointed for the trial of an impeachment, the legislative business of the Senate, if there be any, shall be suspended, and the Secretary of the Senate shall give notice to the House of Representatives that the Senate is ready to proceed upon the impeachment trial of ________ _________, in the Senate Chamber.

XI. Unless otherwise fixed by the Senate, the hour of the day at which the Senate shall sit upon the trial of an impeachment shall be 2 o’clock in the afternoon; and when the hour shall arrive, the Presiding Officer upon such trial shall cause proclamation to be made, and the business of the trial shall proceed. The adjournment of the Senate sitting in said trial shall not operate as an adjournment of the Senate as a legislative body.

XII. The Secretary of the Senate shall record the proceedings in cases of impeachment as in the case of legislative proceedings, and the same shall be reported in the same manner as the legislative proceedings of the Senate.

XIII. Counsel for the parties shall be admitted to appear and be heard upon an impeachment:Provided, That counsel for the prosecutors shall be under the control and supervision of the panel of prosecutors of the House of Representatives.

XIV. All motions, objections, requests, or applications whether relating to the procedure of the Senate or relating immediately to the trial (including questions with respect to admission of evidence or other questions arising during the trial) made by the parties or their counsel shall be addressed to the Presiding Officer only, and if he, or any Senator, shall require it, they shall be committed to writing, and read at the Secretary’s table.

XV. Witnesses shall be examined by one person on behalf of the party producing them, and then cross-examined by one person on the other side.

XVI. If a Senator is called as a witness, he/she shall be sworn, and give his/her testimony standing in his/her place.

XVII. If a Senator wishes to put a question to a witness, he/she shall do so within two (2) minutes. A Senator may likewise put a question to a prosecutor or counsel. He/she may also offer a motion or order, in writing, which shall be submitted to the Presiding Officer.

XVIII. At all times while the Senate is sitting upon the trial of an impeachment the doors of the Senate shall be open to the public. Silence shall be observed by the visitors at all times, on pain of eviction from the trial venue.

The Presiding Officer and the Members of the Senate shall refrain from making any comments and disclosures in public pertaining to the merits of a pending impeachment trial.

The same shall likewise apply to the prosecutors, to the person impeached, and to their respective counsel and witnesses.

XIX. All preliminary or interlocutory questions, and all motions, shall be argued for not exceeding one hour on each side, unless the Senate otherwise orders.

XX. The case, on each side, shall be opened by one person. The final argument on the merits may be made by two (2) persons on each side (unless otherwise ordered by the Senate upon application for that purpose), and the argument shall be opened and closed on the part of the House of Representatives.

XXI. The trial of all the articles of impeachment shall be completed before the Senators vote on the final question on whether or not the impeachment is sustained. On the final question whether the impeachment is sustained, the vote shall be taken on each article of impeachment separately; and if the impeachment shall not, upon any of the articles presented, be sustained by the votes of two-thirds of all the Members, a judgment of acquittal shall be entered; but if the person impeached in such articles of impeachment shall be convicted upon any of said articles by the votes of two-thirds of all the Members, the Senate shall proceed to pronounce judgment of conviction, and a certified copy of such judgment shall be deposited in the Office of the Secretary of the Senate. A motion to reconsider the vote by which any article of impeachment is sustained or rejected shall not be in order.

Form of putting the question on each article of impeachment.

The Presiding Officer shall first state the question. Thereafter, each Senator, as his/her name is called, shall rise in his/her place and answer: guilty or not guilty. The vote of the President of the Senate on each article of impeachment, when acting as the presiding officer, shall be last taken after all the Senators have stated their votes. If he/she so wishes, a Senator may explain his/her vote for not more than two (2) minutes.

XXII. All the orders and decisions may be acted upon without objection, or, if objection is heard, the orders and decisions shall be voted on without debate by yeas and nays, which shall be entered on the record, subject, however, to the operation of Rule VI, and in that case no Member shall speak more than once on one question, and for not more than ten (10) minutes on an interlocutory question, and for not more than fifteen (15) minutes on the final question, unless by consent of the Senate, to be had without debate; but a motion to adjourn may be decided without the yeas andnays, unless they be demanded by one-fifth of the Members present. The fifteen minutes herein allowed shall be for the whole deliberation on the final question, and not on the final question on each article of impeachment.

XXIII. Witnesses shall be sworn in the following form: “You _______________, do swear (or affirm, as the case may be) that the evidence you shall give in the case now pending between the Philippines and ________ _________, shall be the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth: (so help you God).”

Which oath or affirmation shall be administered by the Secretary of the Senate, or any other duly authorized person.

Form of a subpoena to be issued on the application of the prosecutors of the impeachment, or of the party impeached, or of his/her counsel.

To ________ __________,


You are hereby commanded to appear before the Senate of the Philippines, on the _______ day of ___________, at the Senate Chamber in ____________________, then and there to testify your knowledge in the case which is before the Senate in which the House of Representatives has impeached ___________, and to bring with you the following ___________, it being necessary to use the same as testimony.

Fail not.

Witness _______ ________, and Presiding Officer of the said Senate at ______________, Philippines, this ___ day of _______, in the year of our Lord ___________________.

Presiding Officer of the Senate

Form of direction for the service of said subpoena.

The Senate of the Philippines )

To ________ __________,


You are hereby commanded to serve and return the within subpoena according to law. Dated at ___________, this ______ day of ______, in the year of our Lord ______________.

Secretary of the Senate

Form of oath to be administered to the Members of the Senate and the Presiding Officer sitting in the trial of impeachments.

“I solemnly swear (or affirm, as the case may be) that in all things appertaining to the trial of the impeachment of ______ ______, now pending, I will do impartial justice according to the Constitution and laws of the Philippines: (So help me God).”

Form of summons to be issued and served upon the person impeached.


The Senate of the Philippines )

To ________ __________,


Whereas the House of Representatives of the Philippines did, on the ____ day of ________, present to the Senate articles of impeachment against you, the said ______ ______, in the words following:

[Here insert the articles]

And demand that you, the said ________ ________, should be put to answer the accusations as set forth in said articles, and that such proceedings, examinations, trials, and judgments might be thereupon had as are agreeable to law and justice.

You, the said ________ ________, are therefore hereby summoned to be and appear before the Senate of the Philippines, at their Chamber in _______________, on the ____ day of __________________, at ____ o’clock ____, then and there to answer to the said articles of impeachment, and then and there to abide by, obey, and perform such orders, directions, and judgments as the Senate of the Philippines shall make in the premises according to the Constitution and laws of the Philippines.

Hereof you are not to fail.

Witness _______ ________, and Presiding Officer of the said Senate at _______________,

Philippines, this ___ day of _______, in the year of our Lord ___________________.

Presiding Officer of the Senate

Form of Order to be indorsed on said writ of summons.


The Senate of the Philippines )

To ________ __________,


You are hereby commanded to deliver to and leave with ________ __________, if conveniently to be found, or if not, to leave at his usual place of abode, or at his usual place of business in some conspicuous place, a true and attested copy of the within writ of summons, together with a like copy of this order; and in whichsoever way you perform the service, let it be done at least ____ days before the appearance day mentioned in the said writ of summons.

Fail not, and make return of this writ of summons and order, with your proceedings thereon endorsed, on or before the appearance day mentioned in the said writ of summons.

Witness _______ ________, and Presiding Officer of the said Senate at _______________, this

___ day of _______, in the year of our Lord ___________________.

Presiding Officer of the Senate

All process shall be served by the Sergeant-at-Arms of the Senate, unless otherwise ordered by the Senate.

XXIV. If the Senate shall, at any time, fail to sit for the consideration of articles of impeachment on the day or hour fixed therefor, the Senate may, by an order to be adopted without debate, fix a day and hour for resuming such consideration.

XXV. These Rules shall take effect immediately upon publication in two (2) newspapers of general circulation and shall remain in force until amended or repealed. A copy of these Rules shall be posted on the official website of the Senate of the Philippines.



President of the Senate

This Resolution was adopted by the Senate on March 23, 2011.


Secretary of the Senate

Anti-drunk driving bill passes final reading in Congress

Source: Yahoo! News          Link

By Marjorie Gorospe,



QUEZON CITY, METRO MANILA — A bill against drunk driving has reached third and final reading in Congress.

The Anti-Drunk Driving Bill (House Bill No. 4251) was co-authored by former President and now Pampanga 2nd District Rep. Gloria Macapagal-Arroyo.

The Land Transportation Office (LTO) will implement the law and is currently acquiring breath analyzers and desktop drug-testing kits.

The bill states that the drivers can be charged with drunk driving when operating a motor vehicle if the driver’s mental and motor skills are impaired or when the driver’s blood alcohol concentration level measures 0.06 or higher.

A private motorist caught drunk-driving will pay sanctions of not more than P20,000 and one month suspension of his or her driver’s license.

Public utility drivers who will be caught driving under the influence of alcohol and illegal substance will be facing heavier penalties such as automatic revocation of driver’s license and imprisonment ranging from one month and a day to a year.

Party-list Representative Emmeline Aglipay who co-authored the bill said it will now be easier to identify and apprehend violators as drunk driving is defined clearly on the bill.

The Department of Health National Electronic Injury Surveillance System (NEISS) revealed that there were 3,077 vehicular accident-related injuries out of the total 9,521 injury cases reported in 77 hospitals for the first quarter of 2010 alone.

The World Health Organization (WHO) showed that alcohol intake, depending on the level of intoxication, often increases the likelihood of accidents due to poor judgment and decreased reaction time, among other effects.




2011 Video by AmbientMedia


Decade old video of PAL


Ok ok I admit it.  I am one of the very very few airplane passengers who read safety manuals and watch and eagerly listen to safety videos.  Being a constant traveler, it has always been my hope that passengers should be given actual instructional video before the airplane takes off because until now I still sometimes fumble as to the wearing of the “in the event of a water landing” vest.  Yes, that’s how corny I am.  I really wish to be able to hold that vest and try to wear it on my own.  As paranoid as I may sound.

Just over a week ago, I came across through Facebook links the new instructional safety video of Philippine Airlines.  And what can I say??  FINALLY, PAL!

Being a constant traveler myself, I have always been very annoyed if not embarrassed of the safety video of PAL.  It seems like it was created in the 1980s with old fashioned PAL uniform and that slight slant lip of the male model when he speaks lol.  I’m so rude.  Sorry, but I always notice him.  It is such a very nineteen kopong-kopong video, the quality of the filmstrip more than speaks for itself.

But now, FINALLY, PAL heard my plea and the many other pleas of their regular travelers.  Thumbs up to AmbientMedia for the new safety video of PAL.  Hip, modern, it is actually something I’m proud of.  Two thumbs up in fact!  Looking forward to my next trip all aboard Philippine Airlines.


“Mabuhay!  Welcome to Philippine Airlines!,”  sans the slanted lip.

How Stress and Sleep Conspire to Make You Fat

Source: Time Healthland

Link: #comments

By: Meredith Melnick




The trouble with stress is that it seeps into every area of your life — affecting your sleep, mood and the size of your waistline. The interactions between these factors were the subject of a recent study in the International Journal of Obesity, which found that people with high stress and poor sleep were less likely to achieve a 10-lb. weight loss goal.

The study [PDF], led by Dr. Charles Elder of the Kaiser Permanente Center for Health Research in Portland, Ore., involved 472 obese adults (with BMIs between 30 and 50) over age 30; 83% of the participants were women and a quarter were senior citizens over 65. The volunteers were enrolled in a weight-loss program that included attending weekly group counseling sessions, keeping a food diary, exercising at moderate intensity most days of the week (for at least three hours per week), reducing daily consumption by 500 calories and sticking to a low-fat, low-salt diet high in fruits, veggies, whole grains and lean proteins. (More on Is Daylight Saving Time Bad for Your Health?)

At the beginning of the study and again six months later, the researchers looked at certain lifestyle measures, like the participants’ stress levels, nightly sleep quality, and depression.

Over the course of the study, 60% of participants lost at least 10 lbs. — the threshold that gained them entry into the second, weight-maintenance phase of the trial (the results of which are not yet available). As expected, researchers found that factors like exercise, keeping a food diary and attending behavioral counseling sessions were highly correlated with successful weight loss. (On average, participants lost nearly 14 lbs.)

But the researchers also found some other influential predictors of success: sleep quality and stress. Participants who reported sleeping less than 6 hours, or more than 8 hours, per night at the start of the study were less likely to meet the 10-lb. weight loss goal, compared with people who slept 6-8 hours. (More on Lack of Sleep Linked With Depression, Weight Gain and Even Death)

Stress compounded that association: people who slept too little or too much and reported high levels of stress were only half as likely to make it to the second phase of the study as people who got 6-8 hours of sleep and had low stress. What’s more, weight loss was tied to reductions in stress and depression over time, leading the authors to suggest that for people trying to shed extra pounds, it might be worth focusing on proper sleep and stress reduction too. “[C]linicians and investigators might consider targeting sleep, depression and stress as part of a behavioral weight loss intervention,” the authors concluded.

This isn’t the first time scientists have identified sleep or stress as a culprit in weight gain. At last week’s American Heart Association meeting, researchers from Columbia University released data from a study of 26 healthy men and women, showing that when people are sleep-deprived (4 hours of sleep a night for six nights), they eat significantly more calories than when they’re well rested (9 hours of sleep a night for six nights). In the study, sleep-deprived women ate 329 more calories per day, and men ate 263 more calories — and most of those excess calories came from foods like ice cream and fast food.

It’s thought that disruptions to the sleep cycle stimulate a hormone called ghrelin, which in turn stimulates appetite.

Further, there’s increasing evidence that chronic stress can trigger overeating as a coping behavior. And studies show that high-calorie, fatty foods light up some of the same reward pathways in the brain that drugs do (at least in mice) — in other words, fatty, sugary snacks can become “addictive.”

For dieters, the combination of poor sleep and lots of stress can be a serious gut-buster.

So Who Gets the Armrest?

Source: Yahoo! Finance

Link: who-gets-the-armrest?mod=family-travel

By: Scott McCartney



Ethics and etiquette for bad behavior, boors and stinky food in coach at 30,000 feet.

Where else but on an airplane are people jammed into limited space and forced to share re-circulated air, not to mention bad behavior? One person leans back and encroaches on another. A neighbor’s large belly or long legs extend into the space you paid for. One passenger’s onion rings are polluting an entire row.

Travel in coach these days and expect to be infringed upon somehow. Stress, fatigue, thin air and the yearning to stretch out bring out the worst manners in many. Travelers do things they’d never do at home or in the office. Among strangers, they elbow each other over arm rests or splay legs to grab as much real estate as possible.

Frustrated and fatigued parents watch with resignation as their children kick seats or pound tray tables. Game-players and music listeners leave the volume up, never thinking that those around them must listen to their beat as well.

To some, the decline in civility aboard passenger jets coincides with a decline in airline service and comfort and an increase in airline rules and fees. By pushing seats closer together, filling middle seats far more frequently and replacing amenities with fees, airlines have helped bring out the worst in their customers.

“You’re being put-upon in a way you shouldn’t be in the first place,” says Anna Post, etiquette expert at the Emily Post Institute and a frequent traveler herself. “Stressed, often rushed, you’re cramped, in many cases tired and hungry, thirsty and bored. None of these are conducive to getting along with strangers in a tight environment.”

Travel authorities — frequent travelers, long-time aviation industry leaders, flight attendants and ethics and etiquette experts — don’t agree on the best way to cope with on-board aggravations.

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Tolerance for intrusions varies. Some long-time travelers have adopted the attitude that if someone’s legs stray into your legroom, kick back. Others say travelers have to have more tolerance for people with long legs that don’t fit into tight airline seat pitch or large girth that won’t squeeze into a 17.2-inch-wide seat.

“I think many frequent fliers try to take the approach that, ‘We’re all in this together for the next X hours’ and try to make it work,” says James Vesper, a platinum-level flyer on both Delta Air Lines (NYSE: DAL – News) and US Airways (NYSE: LCC – News).

And since airlines are filling their planes fuller than ever with passengers, frequent traveler Ron Goodenow has one suggestion: “I think it would be great if an airline, as part of its pre-flight announcement, said something like, ‘We have a very crowded flight today folks. Please be kind to your neighbor.’ ”

Case Studies

1. You’re in the middle seat, between two strangers. Who gets the armrests?

Anne Loew, veteran flight attendant: The folks in the aisle seat can lean toward the aisle, and the window-seat passenger has the window to lean on. The poor middle-seat passengers are suffering enough — they get both armrests.

Gordon Bethune, former Continental Airlines chief executive: They do.

James Vesper, frequent traveler: The middle seat gets both arm rests.

Richard Wishner, frequent traveler: You share. The bigger guy gets the forward part of the armrest.

Anna Post, etiquette expert: There is no innate winner of the arm-rest battle. If I’m in the middle seat, I try to claim one. They are not both yours for the duration.

Kirk Hanson, Santa Clara University ethics professor: Fairness requires the allocation of at least one arm rest to each traveler. Therefore, the side seats get the “outbound” armrests away from the middle seat. The middle passenger gets both armrests, in part as compensation for the dreaded middle seat.

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2. A tall man sits down and his knees jut out wide, encroaching on your space.

Thom McDaniel, veteran flight attendant and union president: You are entitled to your space from armrest to armrest in the seat you purchased, so you should say something if anyone encroaches.

Marion Blakey, former head of the FAA and the NTSB: Nothing — he can’t help it. When the doors close look quickly for another seat.

Mr. Bethune: Gently push back.

Mr. Wishner: Drop something on the floor. When he hopefully picks it up, reclaim your legroom space.

Ms. Post: Body language can say a lot here. He bumps me I look down towards him — not look at him. I’ll adjust myself in a way that makes him realize he made me adjust. You can always say something, but tone is going to carry the day. Snarky is not OK.

Mr. Hanson: The tall man is not at fault for being tall. Candid discussion when you all sit down goes a long way toward everyone making accommodations for this situation.

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3. You’re in the window seat and two strangers in the middle and aisle seats are asleep. You have to go to the bathroom.

Mr. McDaniel: No good options here. You have to wake them up politely. If you try crawling over them, not only is it really awkward looking, but if they wake up, you will startle them, and that’s worse.

Mr. Bethune: Go to the restroom. Sorry.

Mr. Wishner: Climb over them.

Ron Goodenow, frequent traveler: I wait as long as possible and politely tap a shoulder and say something like “its that time.” Never had a problem or nasty look.

Ms. Post: Tap them on the shoulder, the shoulder is a safe place, rather than the leg or a hand. Sometimes the act of unbuckling your seat belt will wake them up. If you’re hopping up every 20 minutes, that is not acceptable.

Mr. Hanson: It is the responsibility of the person in the aisle seat to initiate a group bathroom break every 90 minutes or so. On long flights when people sleep, the aisle person should announce to the others that he or she is going to sleep and ask if anyone wants to get out before he does.

4. On a long flight on a full plane, some kids are getting restless, speaking loudly, and kicking seatbacks.

Ms. Loew: Say something to mommy and daddy.If it doesn’t stop tell the flight attendant.

Ms. Blakey: I watched one flight attendant handle this adroitly by saying she “would hate to have to put him off the plane.” Not another kick.

Mr. Wishner: Turn up the volume on your headset.

Mr. Goodenow: Look back and leave a perplexed look and say something like “been there, done that” to the weary parent.

Ms. Post: It’s not good to try to discipline someone else’s child. Ask for what you want, but don’t try to justify it. Tone carries a lot. You don’t want to get into an argument with parents.

Mr. Hanson: Travelers who are particularly sensitive to noise should carry earphones or earplugs. My first tactic is always to look between the seats and get the eye of both child and parent. If the kicking continues, then I get up and look over the seat top and ask politely for the parent to control the kicking. The third step is to ask the flight attendant to intervene.

5. Your seatmate brings a smelly meal on board and loudly starts munching.

Ms. Loew: Food that looks and smells as if it came from an episode of Anthony Bourdain’s “Nasty Bits” could be, for some, one step too far. But not much can be done once the person is slopping and munching away.

Mr. Goodenow: My normal solution is to crank up my MP3 player and curl up in the direction of the window until it is over, praying my clothes will escape.

Ms. Blakey: Basically [you have to endure it] unless he spills on you.

Mr. Vesper: If my clothing is endangered, I’d ask him/her if they have an extra napkin. Otherwise I breathe through my mouth.

Ms. Post: May be totally gross, but the damage is done. You can’t tell someone they can’t eat that. If they are spilling, yes, say something. You can’t be food police on the plane.

Mr. Hanson: Airlines have brought this on themselves by eliminating food service. Not only did I have a middle seat [recently], I was in the back and all the food-for-sale was gone by the time they reached me. I got out my smelly cheese and ate it in front of my seatmates.

6. Do you recline your seat?

Ms. Loew: More people are choosing not to recline in deference to their fellow passenger. If someone reclines and you can’t do your work, then you are permitted to ask them to please adjust their seat. Expect a dirty look and a 50/50 chance of achieving your goal.

Mr. McDaniel: You have the right to recline, however it is nice if you check to see if anyone has their computer open or has something that can spill on their tray before reclining. If you choose to recline, do it slowly or just halfway.

Mr. Bethune: Live with it. The recline is your space.

Mr. Wishner: Put your knee in the back of his seat.

Ms. Post: It’s OK to recline, just don’t do it fast. If the airline gives you the option to recline, that is yours. You don’t need to ask permission.

Mr. Hanson: Some seats are so close together, and some seatbacks recline so much, that ethics and courtesy demand not asserting your “right” to recline all the way. One should always assess the impact your reclining has on the person behind.

Anti-spanking bill passes first reading

Source: Yahoo! News

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By Anna Valmero,



QUEZON CITY, METRO MANILA — The United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF) lauded the passing of a bill that penalizes spanking or hitting children as a form of discipline.

The Positive Discipline Act of 2011 passed the first reading at the House committee on the welfare of children. The bill is co-authored by Tarlac Representative Susan Yap and  Bagong Henerasyon Rep. Bernadette Herrera-Dy.

The said bill promotes positive and non-violent forms of disciplining children.

High profile cases of child violence and beatings prompted Congress to act with a proposed legislation to assist parents in fulfilling their parental authority while upholding children’s rights.

Once approved into law, the bill mandates a comprehensive program to protect children from all forms of physical or mental (psychological) violence, injury and neglect.

“At most the punishment would be an aresto major, which includes one to 60 days of imprisonment but for cases like this, usually the DSWD (Department of Social Work and Welfare)  intervenes to reorient the parents on how to handle their children,” said Herrera-Dy.

A study by Plan International, the United Nations Children’s Education Fund (UNICEF) and Australian Aid (Ausaid) showed high incidence of school children being subjected to physical punishment to discourage misbehavior.

As defined under the bill, positive and non-violent discipline refers to “an approach to correct the behavior of a child and to teach a lesson that would build self-discipline and emotional control while nurturing a good relationship with the child by understanding his or her needs and capabilities at various ages”.

The Department of Education has affirmed its support to the bill and has likewise initiated some actions together with UNICEF that would address violence against children not just in school but at home.

“Evidence stress that violence against children is harmful as it impedes their development and has negative impact on their childhood,” noted Child Rights Network (CRN) co-convenor Selena Fortich. “This is an opportunity for the Philippines to be in the forefront of the advocacy to institutionalize and promote positive and non-violent ways of discipline for children.”


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